Being thankful in rough times

When things aren’t going exactly the way we want them to sometimes it hard to be thankful. It’s hard to give praise and to look pass the things that are simply not working the way we want them to.  When we are in the middle of dealing with family illness and lost of jobs and being newly married still trying to get used to husband’s or wife’s little corks, it can be hard to be happy all the time..

My husband mom made it through surgery very well, now we are in the process of trying to get mom to do what is best for her, not necessarily what mom wants to do. The right thing to do isn’t always the things we want to do, sometimes it is the things we would would just rather not do. My husband and I lately have been trying to avoid things, we have been advised to do, because we do not want mom and dad to be mad at us. We want to remain looking like the good guys, I know I do. I told my husband I would talk to mom and see if I can get her to go for a month in rehab, which is something she needs. I didn’t want to do this, so I put it off then when we called and spoke to her nurse. Her nursed offered to talk to mom if there were problems over night and see if she could convince mom to do what was best for her.  Sometimes doing the wrong thing is so much easier because we do not want to anger people. We want people to be happy even if they might get hurt because we’d just would rather not rock the boat.  In mom case I think she doesn’t want to give up her independence, and she wants to be at home with her pets. I understand this to a point. I am glad this nurse is willing to help my husband and I, because I don’t want to be the one to sound like the evil daughter in law to his mother.

Sometimes it seems his parents tell me a lot more then they tell their son. Sometimes I wonder if they tell me stuff in hopes, I won’t tell their son, which you know I will tell my husband. I do not hold information away from him unless I am very specifically asked not to or I feel it is something that none of his business. None of his business means if I go to a friend to pray with them, I am probably not going to tell my husband what going on with that person. Now with his parents, I will not hold back any information, because he needs to know. I know eventually my husband and I will finally say, it best to let his family be angry with us, and it best to leave his parents be mad at us.

I am thankful his mom made it through surgery just fine, and that the hospital isn’t willing to release her before they feel she is strong enough to go home. This is a good thing, it gives hubby and I some time to figure out what needs to be done and how to go about it with out hurting them.  I am thankful for his parents, they have loved me as a daughter of their own and accepted me into the family. They have really showed me unconditional love acceptance and I am afraid of losing because we are trying to do the right thing for his mom.

I am thankful that my husband got a new job, with better benefits and is able to put me on his dental plan. Medical we are not to worried about because I have insurance for that already, and haven’t needed it. I am thankful that my asthma been fairly controllable.

I am thankful for my grandma and her being able to listen to me, when I call her needing to talk about what going on. She understand it from both ends from the aging parent and from the daughter who had to deal with her mother. My grandma has been helpful, allowing me to talk and give advice that is sometimes needed, and giving encouragement. I know I can count on grandma to be able to sound off on her. I am thankful G-d allowed me to find my father and that grandma was not willing to ship me back to where I came from, when my dad got sick and she needed to take me in. She didn’t have me and she wasn’t responsible to help raise me into my adulthood, she was grandma and should have been allowed to spoil me and drive my parents up the wall. Grandma did spoil me to a point but she also taught me about working.  I am thankful when my Grandma fall this week, she wasn’t to long in the hospital.