Not her guilt to carry

It hard to know when to listen, and when to know a thought might just be a bad thought. A few years ago, I went through something horrible. I had asked my best friend, a what if this happens to me. What will I do. My best friend told me, maybe I should not go. Today she told me that she holds guilt for one of the worst events in my life. Guilt that is not hers to bear or carry. She did not cause it, it was not her fault and she did tell me not to go.
I told her if anyone is at fault and has any guilt between the two of us it was me, because I was the one who had the what if question. I was the one that said what was going to happen and I did not listen to it. Hind site is 20/20 you always know what you should do. I can say all I want I should have stayed home. I should not have lift, but it doesn’t change the fact I trust this person more then my own self, more then the gifting G-d had given me.
I know G-d will show us things, he will speak to us. I even knew then that he spoke to us. But I did not realize it was him. It has taken me years to let go of the guilt I had, of the blame I placed on me.
I have been told by many Christians, how could you put yourself into that situation. This harmed me more then did me any good. People do not choose to put themselves into bad situations. People do not ask to be broken and destroyed. I did not tell this person to harm me the way they did but they choose their actions. Grant it I choose not to listen to my best friend. But this person who was claiming to be of G-d wasn’t, they where a wolf in sheep clothing. They fooled all of us that knew them. Do I regret trust them, yes I do but regret will not change what happened.
I was took away from the safety of my home, and pulled through 4 different States to go through hell. It was the loneliest time I have ever experienced. I even felt like G-d was gone. I know he wasn’t G-d never leaves and I believe that it during those times of great pain and suffering that G-d is his closest to us. We just can’t sense that he is there because of the pain we have.
The event I went though was a horrible deal and my best friend should not feel guilty, I got the travel deals
I do not know why I had to experience what I did, I know it not my fault and I know it not my best friends, I know G-d did not tell this person to do their evil act because G-d is not evil. That person had a choose he used G-d name to do it and that is on him, it his sin.
We need to know just because someone is claiming G-d and claiming G-d said to do something, we need to make sure it matches up with G-d character. G-d Character is not total destruction of a person, or harming a person so deeply that they lose faith. G-d does correct his people but his correction of his children isn’t like what some evil people have claimed it is. I wish I knew how to make my friend see that it not her guilt to carry, if anyone should be carrying it, it’s me. I am the one who lift even though she told me maybe you should say. It don’t matter that she told me it was my choose. It was and I made a bad choice but to be honest it not my fault that he choose his actions, and he choose to use G-d name in vain. Sorry if this isn’t clear for some of my readers.