Doing good deeds to feel better

Yesterday my husband and I went out with a friend for Coffee after church. She came and met us at the Lunds while were where shopping for our food today. She was feeling down about things in her life, and was praying that G-d would give her something she could do to help someone else.
I have been with out a steady job for months now, and honestly don’t have money to be going out for coffee, but I was going to go ahead and get me a Caramel Highrise, they are good coffee and taste yummy to me, I get mine with Soymilk, or my stomach would retaliate against me. She asked me if she could buy my coffee Hey I am not about to say no because I really need all the money I can keep.
I was sharing with her about my job sistuation and about what some of the companies I have been working for have done to me. She has worked temp jobs many times, she knows what I am going through. She works for a union and said she was sick of the union. I told her some days I wish I had a union I could go to, because maybe I wouldn’t be treated so poorly by companies that for what ever decide not to keep me they might be less likely to want to lie about me. I was sharing with her about the stresses of needing to have money for credit cards, and college funds and how lately it feels like I have been put into a pressure cooker.
We shared about everyday stuff and her job. At the end of our time together she said I am glad I met up with you guys today because I had asked G-d to give me a mitzvah for someone. She said she was looking at everything she didn’t like in life and wanted to make someone feel better. I know how that goes, I too would rather help other people then look at everything that been wrong.
This whole week I have been on line until well after 2 am because I wanted to chat with a couple of people, last night I honestly wanted to be online no later then midnight but I started explaining the Passover plate, and after that about when I was going to leave someone Private Messaged me they needed to talk to someone. I was happy to talk to her, because I knew her experience right now is so much harder then what I am face, and I have also faced it.
My husband yesterday was telling my friend and I never to pray for Wisdom because wisdom means knowledge with the temperance of being faced experience. When I was young I often prayed for Wisdom, I often asked G-d to give me the wisdom I needed. I still do that. I jokely asked my husband so that means because I prayed for Wisdom G-d decided to let bad things happen because I asked him to. I do not believe that asking for wisdom does that, but sometimes I believe G-d allows us to experience pain, he allows us to experience things in our life that make us feel good, that hurt us and that bring us experience.
I lost my father from cancer this was hard to deal with for me, but now when I deal with people who have close friends and family with cancer, I understand the pain and the questions that comes with it. I can relate to them. I am not saying I am glad my dad had cancer so I could relate to these people, I wish not but sometimes I believe that G-d will allow us to face things that he carries us through to grow us and help us be Sympathetic with the person fighting.
I have found things I don’t really struggle with it is harder for me to relate to a person. I can be encouraging to them, but I don’t have that personal experience that give me knowledge and understanding of a person who is battling in a area.
Sometimes we will go to many different things before we go to G-d or to people who have experience dealing with the problems we are face with. It like trying to loose weight and deciding to use a weight loss product. There are so many options out there so you have to look at everything if you need help losing weight or curving appetites, the question always has to be is this product the best or that product the best for me. There are many things out there like orovo detox to pick and choose from, but sometimes it good to ask for help when choosing if something is good for one use.