Conversation in chatroom

Sometimes I spend time in a chat room, I have a couple of people I am meeting form one of my sites I been frequenting lately. I am kind of excited because I will get to meet who I been speaking to for quiet awhile. They are a few hours south of me. Normally I don’t meet people on line but I figure no harm in meeting a family.
A couple nights ago, I came into the room and their was a chatter who was searching for some answers. I guess they didn’t like what we had to say. She came in talking about divorcing her husband. I tried first finding out what had happened, before casting any opinion, because I don’t want to give unwise counsel, one of the chatter in there who don’t normally chat there started telling her under no circumstance should she leave him. Well some of us disagree with such a cut dry determination of what needs to be done. The person started twisting scripture to mean what he wants it to. Well I know that Yeshua spoke in the New Testament about divorce and how we are allowed because of our hardness of our hearts, but he also spoke about martial unfaithfulness being a reason.
I stand on the opinion that marital unfaithfulness is one thing but also abuse. Why do I see abuse as a reason to get out of the relationship, if nothing has worked to solve it. The reason why because I believe G-d doesn’t want us to be harmed that way, and because preservation of life is more important.
Being married takes a lot of work, so when I talk about abuse I am not talking about the occasional verbal spats that couples have. Trust me I know couples have them because my husband and I have them and sometimes, we really let our tongue get the best of us and use it in very unkind and unloving ways. Sometimes we say things that are stupid, so that not the type of abuse, I am talking about.
It likes my Toshiba Satellite I might be able to drop it at a low distance accidentally and it be fine, but if I started abusing it and slamming it from a high level as hard as I could it would probably break on me. I know my lap top is strong and of great quality because I have tripped over my cord and took the laptop down with it. It didn’t land very gently neither to be honest I am surprise it still works as good as it does. Now if I where to take it and slam it all about, it would stop working maybe not the first time but eventually it would. Just like abuse maybe the first time it doesn’t do that much damage or if it physical it doesn’t kill the person but as time goes on it normally theres a danger of death to the person.
I believe marriage is a covenant and should not be taken lightly but I also know sometimes people true colors don’t show up until after marriage.