Prayers and meetings

Last night my husband and I tried a support group, we found it through the American Cancer Association. He had tried a group that wasn’t specif to cancer eventhough I told him he aught to find one more spefic to cancer because it a different kindof of thing then someone just deing suddenly. Last night we had a chance to share what had happened with hospice, and everyone was shocked at how poorly they treated our family. It felt good to finally be able to get it off our chest. They gave us a lot of time to share and speak about what was happening which I think really help us.
They had asked if we have seeked out one on one grief counseling, we haven’t because we are thinking a support group sistuation would be better. It was more of a cancer surviver group but they had compassion and understanding for what we where going through and we felt comfortable there. One of the lady had told us that we should be tested for a gene which causes cancer. My dad died from lung cancer, and I mentioned it, along with my husband mom passing. They told him he should be tested to eventhough he was adopted. Everyone in the meeting was a lot older then I or my husband. It’s been a long time since I or my husband been called kids other then by his parents.
It was a Christian based group which was nice, because the focus was more on G-d and they prayed some, there where several people fighting and in remission of Cancer. I am praying they all make it through it. There was a little devotional which was nice, personally I think it be good if someone wrote a devotional for people fighting with serious illiness. One thing I have noticed with just about all people I know who have fought cancer they show a lot more forgiveness and sometimes they show how their faith truely is.
I don’t think there are many set prayers that really work well, I am not one who follows set prayers, and to be honest I find them kind of on the annoying side. I have always felt if I need to talk to G-d why do I need other peoples words, and they don’t always tell HIM how I am feeling. Sometimes I have been in a place which well I don’t exactly know where to start and what to tell him. Sometimes grief can be over powering and well something has to get me back on track.
One prayer over the years I have came to appreciate is the Kaddish. It brings the focus back to G-d, it helps brings thing back to G-d. The kaddish is:
Leaders and mourners:
Magnified and Sanctified be His great Name in the world which He created according to His Will. May he establish His kingdom during your days, and during the life of the whole house of Isreal, even swiftly and soon; say, Amen.
Congregation:
Let His Name be blessed forever and to all eternity.
Leader and Mourners:
Blessed, praised and glorified exalted, extolled and honored, magnified and lauded be the Name of the Holy One, blessed is he, though He be high above all blessing and songs, praises, and consolations which are uttered in the world; and say Amen.
Congregation:
May there be abundant peace from Heaven, and life for us and for all Isreal; and say, Amen.
leaders and mourners:
May He Who makes peace in the high places make peace for us and upon all Isreal; and say Amen.