Not alone

With out getting into to much detail, recently I spoke with someone about something I went through. The person had told me something that happen to one of their children which was horrible and they are struggling with dealing with it. Several years ago I went through some horrible things, I won’t get into it right now, because I just don’t wanna.
I know the feeling of being a lone and like there is really no one there. I have felt that I was in a war all of my own and no one was their to aide me. Some events in life make a person feel that way and then instead of trying to take control back in a healthy way we sometimes try to take it back by controlling things which we really have no control over. Like when you lose car insurance suddenly you paying a bunch more for insurance then you want to pay. I went through the lose of job because I just couldn’t handle it for a while, and Praise the L-rd he proved for me.
I am not sure why this friend shared with me what her child went through but I know that what I have experienced is being used to allow others know they are not alone. The hardest thing to deal with is the feeling of being a lone during a crisis of anytime. Eventhough we know that we are not the only one who experienced it.
G-d has brought me through a lot of healing, and I know he can use me if I allow him to. My heart is to do counseling for woman and children and family with children with special needs. I am not sure how I will get the education other then one step at a time and pray that I can manage it. Sometimes when we are struggling it just seems no one there and no one can possible understand I remember that feeling well, especially when all my friends turned their backs on me. The best piece of advice I could give this person was let the child know they are loved and nothing can change how you feel about them. Let them know they are valuable and are okay no matter what has happened in there life. It’s something I wish I would have had instead of a lot of comments which laid more guilt into my life and more feeling of unlovable nice.
When people are hurting it’s best to not rub salt in their wounds but giving them the well hind site is 20/20. It doesn’t help to say well you should have been there or done this, it doesn’t change the fact that they where their or did that, all it does is remind them of what they already feeling, even if their guilt isn’t warranted at all and it’s not their fault.