Growing in faith

This past Sabbath I had to call someone I felt bad but I knew she only meant well but dad was feeling pressured and he didn’t like it at all. It fall on me or hubby needing to call her and let her know dad had his feelings hurt. Lately Rabbi been teaching about Baptism, yes it is important but we need to allow people to grow and develop as they are. 3 weeks in a row this sweet lady asked dad if he was going to be baptized and dad said he didn’t want to because he was scared of water. On our way home dad voiced his opinion and was angry.
I honestly didn’t feel there was really any need to be angry about it but I understood how he felt by being asked alot. The thing is dad has came from a Lutheran background, personally I do not agree with baptizing babies but that’s the practice there. My beliefs is as a baby you can not accept to follow Yeshua and baptism does not save you, it’s more then just that it’s having a relationship with Yeshua. I just feel if you can’t agree to be a believer because your not talking or don’t have the understanding needed why do it. Children are not held accountable I do not believe, because they are innocent and don’t always know right from wrong, so why baptism this is just my opinion. I was re-baptized a few years ago. I mean dad’s like some old custom software it’s going to take a long time for him to change to be able to work with something new like Vista. To be honest is Vista working, it’s been a pain for my hubby, and honestly we are both thinking about upgrading our computers when the new Window comes out.
Dad feels his once was good enough and frankly I feel it’s up to G-d to convict his heart. Lately he’s been talking to me about it and I have shared with him, that It would be good but if he decides not to I will support him no matter which direction he goes. Personally I hope he get baptized again but if he chooses not to I am okay with that, considering where he came from I do not think he going to change over night. When he moved in he was racist and now he has a friend who well frankly isn’t the same color. I am proud of him, we’ve had to talk to him about words which aught not be used. He has grown alot and I think baptism might be a last minute decision. Maybe if his son does it again it will encourage dad too, or even if I do. I been debating about it, but haven’t decided to yet.