Bad moods

Have you ever noticed when someone is in a bad mood it does not take long for everyone else to be in a bad mood they are around. Dad has been in a bad mood for a while, and sometimes it hard to not follow him into that mood. I know a lot of it has to do with his problem, and being confused about when it actually is, and that is enough to drive you crazy when you realize what is happening to you. To bad we can not have backup for our memory, like online backup, this way we could just reinstall the programs or memories we are losing, and get back to where we were.
Dad has been confusing a lot of different things, and he been moody. He doesn’t want to eat sometimes so I pretty much have to be like, “get up your eating”. He does eat if I put it down in front of him so, so far it’s working well. We have to tell him when to take a bath because he won’t take one unless I tell him to do so. We try to get him to bath when he goes out or the day before, and sometimes he don’t want to. So I end up telling him he smells and no one wants to smell him. He tells people that he doesn’t have enough clothes when well, he got plenty. We get him new clothes often, so it sometimes frustrating.
One thing for sure when we finally have kids we will be ready for the divide on conquer routine. Dad will do this often, he sometimes will try to start arguments between hubby and I, so we sometimes have to think before we say or do anything. We need to talk to eachother but then if we do he gets upset at us. Let me tell you hubby and I don’t need help not getting along somedays. I love my hubby but some parts of our personality is so similar it’s just not a good thing. Then when hubby and I argue or disagree or appear to then dad worried we going to leave eachother. So we can’t talk around dad, hubby and I need to find a better way to communicate then verbally around dad, so we can well speak to eachother.
Some days hubby and I feel alone even though we know there are other dealing with the same things. I do know when we;ve looked for support groups the caregivers seem to be spouses and not children, and they don’t understand or relate to us well. I wish I could find someone who understood what hubby and I are going through.
This week dad was annoyed with Rabbi because G-d told Rabbi to bring the congregation back together, and dad felt that his son was doing well leading the congregation with out Rabbi there. So we had to explain to him several times that it had nothing to do with hubby but more of what G-d wanted, and that Rabbi isn’t against hubby being a Rabbi but Hubby needs to well frankly improve some things in life. One question I asked dad is Do you think hubby ready to be a Rabbi yet. My answer is Probably not. Let me explain, I am not against my hubby being a Rabbi he make a good one but both of us need to well increase and improve out walks with G-d. We need to wait for G-ds call, and then when he calls us it will be time for us to go and G-d has said G-d to hubby and I yet, and when he does, Hubby will do what he feels he called to do and I will be there to support him in it.
Being a Rabbi or Rabbi wife is not a light thing, there is a lot of responsibility and frankly unless we both of a good strong prayer life, it wouldn’t be healthy. Dad doesn’t see it the same way, but maybe hubby and I should learn not to let dad know things and well when it happens he can deal with it and be upset later.