Having grace

Having grace is important, especially with elderly members. One thing I appreciate with our current congregation is they are graceful and sometimes I think my husband and I might have more issues then them. Dad can be rude at time and very unkind, it is embarrassing to us, and we worry that they might just us because of him. I know we should not be judged by someone else actions but I know we have been in the past. My husband is more open then me, I tend to not let people in as quickly has him. I am protective of my family.
If I had a pool I would get a pool fence arizona with a lock to protect dad from himself. Sometimes doing what is best for him is hard because he fights us tooth and nail. He makes scenes and this unsettles my husband and I.

This weekend he felt he had to tell our table Rabbi needed to shut up and let us go home. A few people looked at us, and those at our tables kind of did the agree with you because we not really sure how to respond. At least they where older ladies and no children at the table. I worry if we set with young people.