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End of week already

admin — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 21:03:46 +0000

This week has been a little odd for me at work. Finally it is the end of the week. I still need to put something clean on my kid today got peanut butter all over me. Oh well kids will do that to you. Lately he been throwing a lot of tantrums and I am not exactly sure how to deal with it. He normally is calm, and affectionate. This week has been a blurry mess everywhere. I have been thinking alot about things that Rabbi said last week about the need to be a community and just church. This week I talked to a good friend, and she said something to me. I see how the church in general has hurt her and sometimes I wonder if she was at a first century type church to begin with if she’d be so wounded. We have forgotten what our roots are and many people get hurt because of it. We have back biting or gossiping which damages people especially when they hear about it. I have been wounded because of that, but my way to handle things is a little different then my friend. I think she has pretty much lost her faith, but I will remain her friend, and continue to pray for her. I just wish I know how to heal the wounds left by enough people in her life that even going to jansport wouldn’t change the problem. I know Rabbi has said that people who keep changing churches do it for a few reason and those problems are never resolved. He is right, I am glad I found this congregation it has been a place to grow, learn, and heal.
I am not saying I have never been hurt by someone at my congregation because I have been hurt. There is a difference here though, that is its a safe place and Rabbi works to keep it safe. For the most when someone hurts someone they apologize and try to make it right.

Called or Not called

admin — Fri, 14 May 2010 02:00:51 +0000

My husband told me something that someone said this week, and I had to agree with him. I will not say what prompted this conversation. But hubby and I started talking about artists who visit congregations and how some charge and some don’t, and other ways to handle it. I think sometimes people are to worried with Christian or not Christian enough or Messianic or Not Messianic enough, or any number of things. How I look at it is, is the music leading me into a time of worship or is it distracting me. Just like is worrying about some physical makes and wondering if cellulite cures works and letting it over power life.
I understand people have their own opinion about artist charging to visit. Here’s how I feel about it, its okay for them to charge a congregation who can afford it, if they are going to a near by congregation to bless them because they can not afford to have them come and does it for free or a love offering. These artist who visit churches or what not do not get all that much from love offering and some of them actually use money from their own pocket to bless someone. Are they called to come to your church when invited Yes they are even if you dislike them. Maybe G-d is going to use them to bless someone or touch that person in a way that no one else could of, and they belong there. If they have a heart to serve G-d and that what they want to do and someone don’t like it then they aught to not come or ask G-d to open their hearts to the person because maybe that person can minister to them and if they are being closed off then no one can minister to them.

sharing

admin — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 16:55:55 +0000

Some of the woman at the retreat have known me since I started at my congregation. I have made friends with many of them. Even though I have made friends with some of them not many know me very well, they only know what I been willing to share, or well not hide. This weekend I shared something with a friend, and I was surprise to know she didn’t know I write songs, or played guitar. I have hidden a good portion of my talents from my congregation due to having a lot of broken trust, and not wanting people to know about it. I have shared with a handful of people about my love for music, and about how I write songs but I don’t feel a need to tell everyone.
Sometimes I think people hear something different then me because I hear my voice and think it don’t sound right. Yet many people tell me I am a good singer, and have encouraged me. Long story short I decided I needed an accountability partner to get me back on the right track, since dad moved in I have not touch the guitar but maybe once or twice. I honestly doubt it been more then that. I told a few people I was planning on taking lesson from our worship leader who a great guitar player, and probably could teach me a lot. I told them I want to get past where I am at because I don’t play as well as I want to.
During worship our guest was doing a song and it was a little high, and she started singing harmony, which meant no one was singing with her. I tried to get the melody line which was way to high for my comfortable range but I can do it, just not sounding good. I thought it sounded horrible, but they thought it was more helpful then I thought it was, I am more of a altoish singer so to sing very high is normally not a comfortable thing. I can hit the high notes but if I am staying up there it a little more uncomfortable. Sometimes we have to listen to our sister in the L-rd when they encourage us and not our own thoughts or reasoning because sometimes we are our own worst critics.
Just like when your expecting a baby, if someone recommends
liquid prenatal vitamin your probably going to do that. We seem to listen to friends or Sisters in the L-rd sometimes on commonsense things but not always when it comes to us on a personal level.

Did you not hear Rabbi

admin — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 02:29:44 +0000

Well it amazing how people can come to a service and think it great and then start talking about other teacher who don’t teach anything like your Rabbi. After one of the services someone was worried about not celebrate the holiday at the right time because they couldn’t see the moon. Hmmm Last I knew the new moon was no moon being seen maybe I am wrong and need to do a little bit of research. I believe the new moon is a clear sky with nothing in it. Researching things out is important, and not always listening to what you hear or read is important. I agree with my Rabbi the internet is a great thing but it can be dangerous at the same time. There are so many who claim to be part of this movement but then claim things not even remotely close to the Bible or Torah. Okay here’s a news flash we are supposed to test what we are being told, we aren’t supposed to just believe anything we hear. If I have questions about what Rabbi says I have no problems going up to him and asking him questions and then looking what he says, and trying to research it out too.
There are a lot of teacher out there, I have to appreciate Rabbi sermon this week because he said don’t teach people what I am not teaching here. Don’t take another teacher instruction and teach it to them because they might believe it coming from me and if it radical we might lose them. The problem also is how do we know what to believe as a new person to the movement if we are listen to teachers who are saying the exact opposite of what Rabbi saying and doesn’t line up with the Bible or Torah. As believers we need to becareful what we listen to just when finding the best weight loss supplements you don’t just want to pick the first thing you find.
Now a lot of the teachings I have heard some people bring in aren’t even close to being right, and concerning. But I normally don’t argue with them, now there have been some conversation I have had with people and I don’t have a problem with that. It is important to make sure if you discuss teaching the person is mature enough in their faith to with stand whatever truth or untruths it might offer.

appearance

admin — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:58:51 +0000

This weekend my husband sermon was on appearance, and how G-d doesn’t always see people the way man would. Even some of G-d prophets have jump to conculsion of looking at the outward appearance. He brought up how David came to be the King, ans the process.
On two of my blogs I been asked to write about Micheal Jackson death to be honest I have not much to say about him. I will say I am worried about his children and praying for whoever is dealing with his estate to do it right, so his children do not suffer from their dads debt. The thing I see with Jackson, he had many surgeries to make himself look different, to look good in mans opinion, when he should have maybe been more worried about G-d opinion. We as a nation put to much on celebrities, we place more value on what their doing and then we wonder why so many teens have eating disorders or some other serious problems. This nation needs to get back to G-d and his laws and stop putting everything on fallen famous people.
I am not trying to be heartless to any fans of his, I know there are many people who liked his music and idolized him. I liked some of his songs but that’s because he was a very talented man. G-d gave him a talent and for what ever reason G-d decided this was his end time, why I don’t know only G-d knows how many days we have so we should live our lives and look for HIM and not place so much value in famous people.
Appearance don’t really matter it’s the heart, try that on a greeting cards online and see how many people would pick it. Probably not very many.
My husband made a good point, this weekend about appearance and later that night we talked some with a group of friends. Something that was brought up probably very few churchs are even going to hit on this topic and using Micheal Jackson death because they do not want to deal with what’s happening in the world today.

Smart move

admin — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:18:41 +0000

Lately my sister in law has been ticking me off. She has taught her children how to hate people who are simply different. Dad has started going to mine and my husband congregation. He loves it there, and is happy. Our congregation has pretty much accepted and loved him for where he is at and treated him well everyone. They have even tried involving dad.
Well my hubby sister doesn’t like the fact that we are Messianic Believers, who follow the Jewish ways of life for the most. We meet on Saturday and honor the Sabbath, and the other appointed times of G-d. Never once have we told her or her children that they are wrong for what they believe in, or even discouraged them from celebrating Christmas or Easter. Never once have we insulted their church or faith, we have accepted dad and them pretty much for what they are. Dad used to go to the Lutheran church there by them for many years and pretty much stopped going there many moons ago.
A couple of years ago we had her middle child up for a weekend and he made some very hurtful statements towards me about Jewish poeple… I was very unhappy about it and asked him do you realize I am Jewish. I worked very hard on not responding to his hate of others.
Since dad has moved up here and started attending with hubby and I, at first dad was a little unsure about it. Lets face it we aren’t like your typical Christian church, and sometimes it’s hard to follow what’s going on. But Dad tried it a few times, and decided on his own we are not different if you listen. Maybe the day of the week is different, maybe we don’t celebrate Christmas or Easter but we are still following the Laws of G-d and his Word. Recently my sister in law had her middle child call again and tell dad he’s wrong for attending there. Dad told him well I don’t see any difference between your or there church.
I think my husband sister needs to get herself some adult diapers, or grow up and stop spreading hate to her children. She has told dad we where pretty much wrong and some other things which I will not repeat on line because it to nasty to put on my site.
One thing I know from working with kids for as long as I have is that as a parent if your ugly and nasty to people who are different than your child will grow up with the same hate. They learn how to act and what to think of other people. So if you teach them their aunt and uncle are evil because they choose to believe differently than you it’s not what I call a smart move.
Hopefully her children will learn what they learned at home isn’t okay. Dad did tell us there is a difference at our church then his Lutheran church at first I didn’t understand what dad was talking about, but after hubby and he explained it I got it. Dad said it don’t matter what I wear as long as it clean and people still talk to me, they accept me for me. That puzzled me. I was always told in church you wear your best for G-d no matter what it is, jeans or skirt but it better be a nice skirt.
Hubby explained to me where dad used to go to church he wasn’t accepted or talked to much by others. He was treated unfriendly. After having that explained to me, I understood dad needed to be loved by those claiming to know G-d and it wasn’t exactly happening, so Sister in law, here’s how it works. If you claim G-d and treat people poorly, those people will lose faith in G-d and start looking else were or stop going totally. I am glad dad here because he can go to church and never feel unexpected or unlike. Now I know not everyone is going to like the same person, but I also know when people are wounded it makes it hard for them to want to go to church. So Smart move teach your child the way you want but remember they are a product of what you have taught them.

Strange

admin — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 02:23:39 +0000

What I find strange is that my husband and I can argue we can say stupid things whenever we want. Normally with hubby if I argue with him, and sleep at night. It doesn’t affect the way I sleep. Last night my husband sister called and you know I think she possessed of the devil or maybe she is the devil! I know this is not kind to say of someone. Okay women this post you should read, if you where not raped or molested by a man don’t claim it or if your going to lie at least don’t call that man everyday.
When you lie about a man like that it can really get them in trouble. So Don’t do it, be honest. What piss me off is that they got caught taking from dad what ever they want, and then they accuse him of doing stuff. Now that ticks me off. I am not saying dad is perfect but well he aint going to go after a girl. Dad been worried about this and I understand. I didn’t sleep because I was worried about dad and angry as all can get.
Today the girl called me asking if I was going to press charges on her, I told her as long as you disconnect all the services in dads name no we will not press charges but if I find out there are more services I will. Then she asked for the check that a company decided should go to dad, I told her if I could prove she hadn’t charge his account I would give her the money. Here’s the thing she owe dad a good amount of money, and frankly I think dad has a right to that money because the company decided it should go to dad because this woman took his info with out dad knowledge and then asked for permission after the fact. Dad is 86 years old and was ran rugged for months and then sleep for a few days when he came up. I worry about what they would do.
Now my husband and I do not celebrate Christmas, we do Chanukah and I know dad wants to see his grandkids but I am worried about his grad kids not understanding him not going down there. I don’t want them to be hurt but I am wondering how in the heck to keep dad safe during the time. I know dad was planning to stay there for a few days but it just won’t be healthy for him. I don’t want him to go there and be accused of something bad, my goodness he is 86, I do not think he strong enough to make moves on girls young enough to be their grandpa, I don’t know.
I was surprised I wasn’t able to sleep which means that for class I got little or no work done. I hope I can get caught up with class and finish my learning team assignment and my personal assignment.
So why can are argue with my husband but something like this makes me lose sleep. I love my husband and care for him more so it strange I wouldn’t lose sleep with hubby but dad. Like I have a security system for dad and worrying about his well being.

Maybe hospice needed that gift

admin — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:40:34 +0000

It’s amazing how words can really hurt a person deeply. I am worried about dad, because of words people have spoken unwisely toward him. I know in the Bible, we are told our tongues are like a flaming sword or something, along that lines and it the one thing that can’t be tamed. I know this weekend I had to bite my tongue a couple of times, and I really had to listen to the Holy Spirit because their were a few times I wanted to open my mouth and chew someone a new one.
Some of dads so called friends and a couple of family members had the nerve to blame him on mom having cancer. They have spoken unkind words toward him, which he took to heart. Normally dad doesn’t share, and just leaves it bottled up. I am someone that sometimes I can feel pain or sorrow coming from a person, I guess maybe hospice needed that gift on Monday. They could have saw how hurt dad was by their action. Shoot I don’t need G-d to show me that much, because it was rather clear and dad is not a type of person to have a melt down. I have seen him cry two times since I have known him. Once when his wife had a stroke and once here this weekend. I am still angry with Hospice, and how they handle every one but the patient. Dad needed to be told it was okay and he did his best, not to feel like because he needed to be away from home, and couldn’t pick mom up or move her when she needed that he had failed as a husband, in not so many words. Mom and dad didn’t need to be called a lair, which is what pissed me off.
I thought a grief counselor or hospice was supposed to be there for the family, not to unvalidate the family feeling. I don’t even care they didn’t offer to help my husband or I afford the cost of needing to go down after one of their nurses told us mom wouldn’t last pass the weekend probably she only had a few days. Okay I don’t mind because she at home looked like things were heading that direction. I am not even made they removed mom out of the house, I would have to and feel they did the right thing. So how come I can be nuetural with them, and understand why they did thing. Listen to what they have to say and pretty much try to place myself away from how I feel about them. Am I being impartial now, no I don’t see any need to be that way right now, around them I was. As family I could have easily told them Hospice is their for the whole family including the patient and if you can’t separate this fact then you aught not to be in both roles.
During this whole thing mom faith is so strong. One of our relatives had told us someone needs to be in the room 24/7 either us or dad because mom was scared of dieing. Mom told us no I am not scared of dying I am going to be with Jesus, I know where I will be. She told them there was nothing to be scared of. I wasn’t there because I was playing grief comfort for dad. After this weekend I am not sure how good of a counselor I will be even though it where my heart is. Mom later told my husband her son, there nothing for me to be scared of, and maybe that person is scared of what’s happening because she don’t know Jesus like I do. We have never heard mom say anything like that about anyone.
When someone is removed out of the house expecially with no one there, leave a note. Dad could have read that and went to the hospital grant it that a natural assumption to make, but then to call them and have them refuse to give information, because someone else was listed. I am not made at the person listed on mom that was meant as a temporary measure for a injection to kill mom pain. She was the only I had to listen to the L-rd with because I felt angry that it took my husband and I at least 40 minutes with hospice of we can’t tell you nothing.
I finally told her Listen we are the power of medical attorney, we are her son and daughter in law, and when we went there Sunday things seemed not good but not that bad. I told her not knowing is not fair to us. She said she was sorry but those where mom wishes. I know for a fact that is wrong, I got a little annoyed by that finally we was told and lead to the impression that she didn’t have long.
She don’t have long but we rush out Saturday and stayed for 3 days.. We got back home last night.
Sometimes we need to please ill thoughts of people in the litter box, and leave them there till we can deal with the feelings of everything.
It is amazing how the hospital thinks we are welling to go to hospice after what happened, I am sorry if I want grief support I would rather not have it with hearing, we are not her for you, that not what we do. So if your only hear for the family why does it say you here to help the family with the grief.
I am glad my grandma has such a huge change in her life over the last couple of years. Grandma has been an example of compassion. I ended up calling her because I needed to talk to someone who was not their to be on one side or the other. I gave dad her phone number, I am not setting dad or grandma up, *laughing* Granny would probably kill him. My thing was making sure dad had someone to listen and accept what he had to say with out judgment. I am not saying I want him to just hear all the good and great things, I want them to be honest but honesty with compassion and not making him feel he is at fault. Guilt is the heaviest burden to carry around when a love one dies. My problem isn’t mom being forced to be in a home, even though she wants to be at home, because the safest place for her now is at a rest home. A rest home will take care of mom basic needs and she’ll have help because now she at a point where she needs more help then dad can give her. They did what was right by mom until they upset her by calling her and dad a liar.

Damaging a witness

admin — Mon, 12 May 2008 01:07:20 +0000

This weekend at church I felt very torn. I have two friends, and one was really hurting our witness. My one friend does not attend often at our church. After my Hebrew class I decided to go down and see if she was still down there. She was sitting with couple of other people, I decided I would go and talk to them all.
We talked about a few things. Then the subjected changed to something I really wish, I wasn’t there for but I am glad I was there for it. One of the people started talking about something, she shouldn’t have because it ended up being a bad witness.
Sometimes at church, we need to think that what we say it can cause other people hurt and pain. It can lead into gossip and evil speech which should never happen at church. We are to be careful of what we say because we shouldn’t cause a blemish on someone else. This was a uncomfortable position because I do not like to correct people, and well expecially in front of other people.
We are told in the Bible we are not to speak evil of people, In Matthew it is outlined how to deal with someone who grieves you. If you hear something and do not know the person then you should not carry it on to another person asking about it.
Gossip is a like a
printers not printing what should be printed but just printing what it wants to. It is a waste of time and a waste of paper. We as believers need to think about what we say to people, are our words going to cause damage to the person reputation, or if they go back is it going to hurt the person who it was said about. I have had to learn from first hand experience how repeating what people say about someone else can hurt that person. I regret the hurt I caused them, and wish I would have used better judgment but at the time I didn’t know what I know now. I have learned my lesson. I have also learned from the experience at other church where I have overheard people backbiting, this hurt me more then anything.
We should be less on the look out to speak ill of people and start looking for the best about them.

What did he write in the sand

admin — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 17:01:34 +0000

Sometimes I wonder what Yeshua had wrote in the sand when they brought him a woman caught in adultery. There was one thing I have missed out of all my reading of this story. She was caught in Adultery where was the man who would have committed adultery with her. Why was he not brought in this was one thing that was recently brought to my attention.
In John 8:4-5 Then they said to him “Rabbi, this woman was caught in the very act of committing adultery, Now in our Torah, Moshe Commanded that such a woman be stone to death. What do you say about it?”
In Exodus we are given the laws of G-d the 10 commandments and one of the commands is not to commit adultery. Leviticus 20:10 If a man commits adultery with another man’s wife—with the wife of his neighbor—both the adulterer and the adulteress must be put to death.
It seems me to me, if she was caught in the act the man should be there because wouldn’t he have been caught also in the act. It not just the woman who sinned.
Yeshua news this was a trap, he said nothing but bent down and started writing. Could he have been writing the names of the men who committed adultery with him, could it have been everyone sins. In the bible we are not told what has been wrote in the sand just that Yeshua was writing in the sand. I think he was using his writing as a way to get the people attention, because first it was the old who lift then the young who lift. I am thinking that maybe the older people if the group lift first because he was listing their sins, or area of their life they struggle with, then the younger ones lift because they started realizing they to were with out sin.
The only one in that group who could have thrown a stone at the woman was Yeshua, because he was the one of them with out any sin. After all her accuser lift Yeshua looked up to that woman and asked her where are your accuser, and then he told her to go and sin no more.
Yeshua had basically did to her sin what a acne treatment does to zits he removed the problem that was resting on the woman head. I wonder if the man would have been with her for charges if maybe things would have been different.